Roxane Gay’s piece “Fullness” and her interview with Trevor Noah were both very interesting, and both addressed a topic most people would consider a difficult subject. I decided to begin with watching the interview with Trevor Noah and then read Gay’s writing, which I believe, for various reasons, helped me better understand her work. By watching the interview first, I was able to personify Gay’s work which allowed me to empathize with her experience. In addition, watching the interview first, instilled in me a sense of understanding with her experience; that I feel I likely would not have if I had read her piece first.
In the interview, Gay explains how so many people hold misconceptions and prejudice towards people who are over-weight, while disregarding their struggles or feelings. These misconceptions and prejudice create a culture in which over-weight people are shamed, dehumanized, considered outcasts, and also considered abnormal. Furthermore, it is shown as the interview progresses and in “Fullness,” that Gay clearly states that her “craving is for more than what is just on a plate.” This craving is to be accepted in society, not feel ashamed for her weight, and to not feel the many pressures associated with being over-weight. Some of these pressures can be very burdensome, for example, Gay explains how she is constantly berated for her weight and regardless of what she does, it is difficult to fit in. Even booking an airline ticket can become an arduous task. If she buys one ticket, she is berated for invading people’s space; but if she buys two tickets people question why she needs two tickets. This mentality towards over-weight people creates an environment in which people like Gay, face constant lose-lose situations, such as the airline ticket dilemma.
As a result of these pressures, people like Gay are more susceptible to being convinced that they need to change their body and that she’s abnormal because of her weight. This notion is absurd; and it made me much more empathetic with her experience, one that she has been dealing with her entire life. For example, Gay was pressured for years to undergo weight lose surgery and finally capitulated. When speaking about herself post-weight lost surgery, she says “I am depressed and miserable. I am cold all the time and exhausted because I’m only eating between 1,200 and 1,500 calories. I am filled with regrets because everything has changed, but everything is exactly the same.” I feel that this quote is more of a metaphor than a quote in which Gay is talking about the physical changes accompanied with weight loss surgery. What Gay truly craves, in my opinion, is not to lose weight but for society to accept her and her body for what it is; and for society to not create unfair and ridiculous social standards regarding weight.